… is when men insist that heterosexual women actually are slightly bisexual, because they project their own lesbian/harem fantasies onto women.
I’ve always resented the dating games and the gender stereotyping rules you’re supposed to follow to get a partner. If a relationship isn’t based on honesty and open communication, why would you want it? And in the meanwhile, millions of women and men who want love and connectivity continue to be single and lonely… and women who want children might end up having to do it on their own.
Great article from The Guardian.
… these cartoons are pretty accurate, ha-ha!
Just one example here to follow up on the earlier toilet related blog posts here, but check out the rest on https://brightside.me/article/men-women-we-are-so-different-64555/
My gym (Sats Elixia) has a number of training videos online for members who want to do training at home, with everything from tabata, cross training, barre to pilates.
In most of the videos there are three persons demonstrating the exercising, normally with mixed sexes. But the yoga actually has three men! If you have ever attended a yoga (or pilates) class, I’m sure you have seen that most of the participants are women. Men might perhaps think that yoga is not tough and hard enough for them. So perhaps the choice of instructors was to dispel gender stereotypes?
In any case, this was a nice and refreshing change.
So, someone posted this video clip on Facebook. At first glance it looks funny and upbeat. But then… count the number of male versus female dancers. Just do it. Especially how many of the clips which aren’t of large groups dancing. There are almost no female dancers. How come? Is it because female characters are supposed to be pretty and cute, and not do goofy movements? Or is it because most main characters in movies are men? Or did the person who made this mash up only focus on the male dancers? No matter which one it is… it’s sad.
Yet again, another horrifying rape case shakes India, reminding us of the rampant violence
against women in the country. However, I think I’m mostly baffled by the lack of analyses of why these acts of violence occur in the first place. How can one expect a society to respect girls and women when families only want boys? What kind of signals does it send when the birth of a daughter is of less value than that of a boy, and mothers are blamed when they don’t have any sons? The ramifications for the country’s demography are serious, when so many female embryos are aborted. It seriously skews the sex balance in the country, and leads to a large surplus of boys and men. This leads to many men having difficulties in getting married, and women become sources of frustration and anger, which in turn leads to the horrific cases of rape and sexual violence. It also leads to an increase of trafficking of the most vulnerable girls and women, and sex slavery. In addition, how can one expect people to have a natural relationship to the opposite sex and sexuality when they live so segregated from each others, and normal interactions are restricted? When girls’ and young women’s worth only equals their chastity and virginity status?
Things are changing in the cities, but in many parts of the country, traditions and conservative gender stereotypes still prevail. Nobody wins from this, and both women and men suffer from the consequences.
The Geneva II conference agreement of today allows women and children of the city Homs to leave immediately to seek safety. I cannot help but wonder why women’s lives are considered to be more valuable than men’s. It’s the same thinking which allowed women and children to leave sinking boats first, and fuels the stereotype that men’s responsibility is to sacrifice themselves and die for the greater good. Why shouldn’t women do the same?
I was strolling the streets of Beirut this morning when I saw this graffiti on a wall (among several others). Good, important message, still much work to do.