About The Gender Observer

I have worked with gender equality in several countries, and have developed a keen eye for how gender issues surround us everywhere. How we think about masculine, feminine, and everything in between, is manifested in myriad of ways we normally aren't conscious of. But if you are observant enough, you will find them.

What a comeback!

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Today’s gender observation of the day goes to two amazing new songs by Kesha. What a comeback after her trials! The first is a beautiful song for all survivors who experienced physical and mental abuse out there. The second is just pure girl power. I could listen to them all day! Enjoy!

Praying:
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The real reason women freeze their eggs

I’ve always resented the dating games and the gender stereotyping rules you’re supposed to follow to get a partner. If a relationship isn’t based on honesty and open communication, why would you want it? And in the meanwhile, millions of women and men who want love and connectivity continue to be single and lonely… and women who want children might end up having to do it on their own.

Great article from The Guardian.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/jul/16/the-real-reason-women-freeze-their-eggs-fertility-career-family

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Girls will be boys and boys will be girls

Many thanks to my colleagues who introduced this song to me today! Several interesting gender references!

Kinks – Lola 1973

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Here are the lyrics:

I met her in a club down in old Soho
Where you drink champagne and it tastes like
a cherry-cola

She walked up to me and she asked me to dance
I asked her her name and in a dark brown voice
she said Lola L.o.l.a. Lola
La La La La Lola

Well, I’m not the world’s most physical guy,
But when she squeezed me tight she nearly broke my spine
oh my Lola, la-la la-la Lola
Well, I’m not dumb, but I can’t understand
Why she walked like a woman and talked like a man
oh my Lola, la-la la-la Lola
La-la la-la Lola

Well we drank champagne and danced all night
under electric candlelight
She picked me up and sat me on her knees
said good boy, won’t you come home with me ?

Well, I’m not the world’s most passionate guy,
But when I looked in her eyes, well, I almost fell for my Lola
la-la la-la Lola,
La-la la-la Lola

Lola, la-la la-la Lola
la-la la-la Lola

I pushed her away
I walked to the door
I fell to the floor,
I got down on my knees
well I looked at her and she at me.

That’s the way, that I want it to stay
And I always wanted it to be that way for my Lola
la-la la-la Lola,
Girls will be boys and boys will be girls,
It’s a mixed up, mouled up, shook up world except for Lola
la-la la-la Lola

Well, I left home just a week before
and I’d never ever kissed a woman before
But Lola’s mine and took me by the hand
Said good boy gonna make you a man !”

Well, I’m not the world’s most mascular man,
But I know what I am I’m glad I’m a man and so is Lola
la-la la-la Lola,
La-la la-la Lola
la-la la-la Lola

Lola, la-la la-la Lo-la, la-la la-la Lo-la,
Lola, la-la la-la Lo-la

Men in yoga! :-)

My gym (Sats Elixia) has a number of training videos online for members who want to do training at home, with everything from tabata, cross training, barre to pilates.

https://www.satselixia.no/trening/online-training/

In most of the videos there are three persons demonstrating the exercising, normally with mixed sexes. But the yoga actually has three men! If you have ever attended a yoga (or pilates) class, I’m sure you have seen that most of the participants are  women. Men might perhaps think that yoga is not tough and hard enough for them. So perhaps the choice of instructors was to dispel gender stereotypes?

In any case, this was a nice and refreshing change.

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Funny movie clips… but sad

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So, someone posted this video clip on Facebook. At first glance it looks funny and upbeat. But then… count the number of male versus female dancers. Just do it. Especially how many of the clips which aren’t of large groups dancing. There are almost no female dancers. How come? Is it because female characters are supposed to be pretty and cute, and not do goofy movements? Or is it because most main characters in movies are men? Or did the person who made this mash up only focus on the male dancers? No matter which one it is… it’s sad.

Take a look:
http://www.bestworthy.com/someone-got-a-bunch-of-movie-clips-and-played-music-over-it-the-result-is-amazing/

 

Bullshit of the day

  

Yeah, cause a man who belittles your feelings is every lady’s dream come true… 

All I’m saying is that I hope this doesn’t set the standard for the rest of the book. You’re hereby warned.